Smile4me-4ever...

Tina Marie Born February 14, 1973

A true friend is one who thinks you are a good egg even if you are half-cracked.

I became a sister on February 14th, 1973. Happy Valentines Day to me LOL I don't know how I felt when she was first born but I remember being kids. I don't remember her being my favorite person and I wasn't hers. LOL Growing up we had the sibling rivalry down pat. Mom and Dad never understood it, hell we didn't understand it, but we fought alot. Really didn't like to be near eachother. I had my friends and she had hers, we just never really formed that relationship while growing up. Our punishment at times was to have to hug eachother and tell eachother we loved one another. We would of prefered a good spanking *haha*

It was nice growing up with someone like you -

someone to lean on, someone to count on... someone to tell on!

As we got older and I moved out and got married, things changed very quickly. She started spending the night at my house and then when I had Jason she became and Aunt. An awesome Aunt at that. Our husbands at the time werent real close but they got along and we did things together. In fact, when Tina married we went down and spent a week of there 2 week vacation on there Honeymoon. Who'd of thought that would ever happen? We had a blast, we went to Gatlinburg, TN. It was a wonderful vacation. We stayed up late playin cards, laughin and jokin around all nite long. I was so happy I went and it was great to have that time together.

How do people make it through life without a sister?

As the years went by and my marriage started to fail. I leaned on my sister for support and she was great. She and I had become great friends at that time and when I finally seperated from him. She literally stayed almost every weekend with me. It was like 2 girls just hangin out. We played all the time on the computer together. Got ouselves into trouble but learned alot about ourselves in the process. For awhile, if we werent together we were on the phone or on the puter together. I loved it, I had so much fun. I looked forward everyday to spending time with my Sissy. She saved my ass many times and helped me get through a very heartbreaking time of my life. I met a guy "David" and he changed my life. I broke his heart and broke my own in the process, but I learned alot about me from him.

I put Tina in a bad spot several times and I am so sorry for that. She has always forgiven me, I guess I wasnt as good of a sister to her as she was to me. God did we have such good times. We have never laughed so hard so often as we did back then. We did things you would be ashamed to speak outloud, therefore, I will not talk about them *haha* My Sis knows exactly what I am talking about, but the memories of those days still crack our shit up! The Good Ole days as we say!

There can be no situation in life in which the conversation

of my dear sister will not administer some comfort to me.

You know I made it through my whole life never trying any drugs, on my 30th birthday, I was a divorced woman at the time and free to be who I wanted to be for the first time in my life and so she rented a limo, invited some friends for the evening and then stayed at my house that night. Wanna know what she got me, other then the limo and the dinner, etc...she got me my first joint! Omg, what was I thinking. I was thinking Hell Yeah! Lets do it! We did and boy did we laugh, we both looked at eachother cuz we both looked stoned and it was funnier then hell. We then got the craving for White Castle...so we set out to go...I decide to drive...we set out and all the sudden we start rolling. I am going 30 mph in a 45mph zone at like 11pm at night. Hello, screams out...Pull Over Pull Over! *haha* We finally made it to Whiteys and damn did they taste good. What fun days we had!

There is no better friend than a sister. And there is no better sister than you.

Those days kind of ended after time. I met Duane and started spending more time with him and Tina went through her divorce and met up with the guy she had been talking to online for awhile. They dated for awhile and then she met Tom. He's a great guy and the family thinks very highly of him. We both have full time jobs and have lives of our own so those days arent as often as either of us would like. I still have a great relationship with my sister. She and I can still talk about anything and we still laugh our ass's off when we get together.

One of the best things about being an adult is the realization

that you can share with your sister and still have plenty for yourself.

I remember when I met Duane she wasnt so thrilled about it. To be honest, she was a lil pissed off. She wasnt ready for the change and nor was I, I wasnt looking for a relationship, it just happened. With that happening, it stopped Sis and I from spending every weekend together. So she didnt want to like Duane, she really just wanted him to go away. Until she realized how happy he made me and then she decided to give him a shot and now shes got the best brother in the world. Those are her words! LOL!

Sisters may share the same mother and father

but appear to come from different families.

Duane and Sis get along great. I am glad they do. I got along with her Ex as if he too was my brother, so I am happy to see she finally has someone she feels that way about. Her and my Ex didnt ever have that kind of relationship, so it means alot to me that her and Duane do. I miss having alot of time with my sister but I know that what we still share is always going to be there and life changes all the time. So I have hope for the slower days of our lives allowing us to get those days back. I know they will.

Sister to sister we will always be,
A couple of nuts off the family tree.

I am so thankful that we found eachother, I cant imagine what life would of been like had I not had her. Mom used to always say, one day your ganna need eachother. Dammit, she was right again! Moms, how do they do that! *haha* Well we have it now and I will cherish it always.

I worry about her alot because I dont see nor talk to her everyday and it seems many times when we do get together, there just isnt enough time or the right situation to really get caught up on eachother. I feel she is happy, but at times worry that things arent as good for her as she would like and I want to be able to help but you have to know for sure somethings wrong before you can offer. I know she knows I am here and I wont judge but I will give the advice that I feel is necessary to say, because I love her and don't want her to hurt over nothing. I will remind her of her worth and tell her where she's going wrong, all because I want her to be happy as she can be. Alot like Mom would do. She seems so happy most of the time. Tom is a great guy, I love him to pieces. I want the best for both of them and I think they love one another deeply, it makes me happy to see them so happy. They have alot to deal with. They knew one another when they had partners of there own. In fact, Tina and her bf Tim, would go out with Tom and his wife. Tina and Tom work together, thats how they met. Story short..both their other relationships ended because Tom and Tina cared about one another, they got along, they made eachother laugh, when you seen them together, they both had a glow. It was wonderful for all, but Tim and Tom's wife of course seen it too and feelings got hurt and relationships ended over time. During this time, Tina and Tom, working all day together, got eachother through this bad situation. Relationship formed from a great friendship, love was already there for eachother just got better when they kissed for the first time. You know how that feels. You go for it, and they did.

I think its awesome most of the time, sometimes I wonder but time will tell. I just hope they are open and honest and talk through there differences like they used to, now they live together, work together, sleep together and wake up together. They both have jobs that have a good deal of stress, they both moved to a diff city, away from there family to be together. Something neither of them had much time to really think about. What started as a way to escape an ex wife turned into a new city, a new job location, grumpy ass residents, missing your family, everything your involved in is now 45 minutes away. Life isnt where work is...how easy is that to deal with? Couldnt do it I tell ya, it sucks, I hate it but I deal when I know my Sis is happy and when shes not, I miss her twice as much and hope its all worth it in the long run. Its alot to give up for Love...unless it truly is the most awesome Love you have ever had and its received the same way. I pray she's got that, but we both thought we had some degree of that in the past. Haven't we all. The lessons you learn through life's journey.

This is Tom, does he make you smile? He does me.. I dont know what it is about him, but he makes me smile. He's a funny man and he's got a great butt. Would love to show you a pic of it in his jeans of course, but thats for family and close friends to view*haha* YW Tom Tom's got a great heart, he's a very easily liked man. He's caring and did I mention funny LOL I am glad he is a part of my life, and I am so happy he loves my sister. He makes her smile too, well most of the time. But lets face it, hes a man and there is no man out there to make any woman smile all the time. If there was...can you even imagine *haha* I wish them both the best life has to offer them but mostly I wish them to love eachother for who they are and what they bring to eachother, I want them to see what the rest of us see and thats happiness on there faces when they are truly accepting of one another and just happy to have that person in there life. Good Luck Guys! I Love ya Both!